Tuesday 12 December 2017

Spirituality, Art and Chiropractors



Drawing at the V&A museum, London 

Spirituality, art and chiropractors may seem odd bedfellows, but this week I’ve decided that they are actually closer than I’d thought.  Maybe it's the fact that it’s my 60th year, or maybe that this year has seen my second brush with cancer, or maybe it’s just because it’s snowing and almost Christmas, but I’m very aware of the questions around spirituality and life’s ‘bigger’ picture. 


This week we had a wonderful days art lesson at the V&A museum in London. Armed with our drawing pads and creative muscles on the alert we headed to Kensington.

"Art Is About Seeing The World", as the Columbian artist Cifuentes said, looking at what is. However, as soon as you start to draw the mind immediately tries to tell you what it ‘ought’ to be seeing, rather than what it actually is seeing.  You look at the arm of a beautiful statue and before you know it your mind is telling you ‘this is what an arm looks like – straight line here, kink there, back to straight line here’.  Of course the arm isn’t like that at all and every arm is unique. The reality is that the body has no straight lines, it only has surfaces and those surfaces are uneven. The best a line can do is to represent and point you towards something close to reality, but it isn’t reality. What stops me seeing what is really there, right in front of me? Firstly I’m too busy, I want to rush on, but seeing needs time; secondly it requires silence, just being, and a heavy dollop of patience, to sit and see what is really there; and thirdly it’s about ego – my mind thinks it knows better than reality.  

 
Rodin’s The Prodigal
After lunch we did an exercise where we had to draw something in one of the galleries, but with our left (or less preferred) hand. Why draw with the other hand? Because we get in our own way – in all of the ways I just outlined above. How do you silence that controlling, ‘know it all’, ‘take short cuts’ kind of thinking, to get yourself out of your own way? In order to draw using the right side of your brain, the side that connects us with the deeper layers of meaning in life, means that you have to take the pen out of the hand of the left-brain.  We don't know what is in us; we don't know our potential because we insist on being in control of our life, in the left-brain kind of way that feels safer.


As I seriously attempted to focus on my drawing, I found myself startled by the hijacking of three words - Meditate, Contemplate and Prayer.  As a new kid on the block to the world of meditation I am still learning that meditation is about being still, silent, present to your self, to the moment and to whatever. Contemplation comes from the Latin word ‘to gaze; to see’.  That is the essence of art – being still, silent and gazing, looking, seeing what is, not what you lazily presumed.  It’s where, like art, we stop looking for what we think should or shouldn't be there and experience first hand what is there. Prayer, like putting the pencil to the paper to begin to create an imperfect offering of a drawing, is our response to what we see - formulating some words of awe, thankfulness, questioning or requesting.


There was one point at the V&A where our teacher introduced the ‘draw with your left hand’ exercise where she said
“I’m going to take away your control; to loosen you up”.
That’s what life does to you if you let it. That's what having a cancer diagnosis does to you if you let it. It loosens you up. It gives you the opportunity to learn to be still (meditate); the opportunity to learn to see what’s actually around you, rather than all the straight line, mental models we surround ourselves with. To see the surfaces, the tones, the curves, the actual experience of gazing at something (contemplate); to every now and then respond with a feeling or some words (prayer) to try and shape some direction of the experience (start drawing something).

So where does the chiropractor fit in?  I’ve been seeing a chiropractor for the past few months. I have to be honest and say whilst I’ve never been an atheist about chiropractors, I have certainly been some where between a skeptic and an agnostic. But I can honestly say I feel better, lighter, and freer than I have in years. Why? Because what I discovered is that after years of bad posture (I have a PhD in Slouching) my spine was all tensed up and so the energy, the potential, within, wasn't getting released to the nervous system, in order to live a life that was possible. And it was that that made me think about Religion. Religion as I had come to know it, (and maybe most of us have known it and many have rejected in its modern form) is a religion of straight lines, predictability, ‘I know’, everything having to confirm to our mental patterns (fundamentalist theology), lifeless and not connected to peoples daily experiences of reality. 


The word Religion actually comes from the word re-ligio = to re-ligament; to realign. That's what chiropractic does – it realigns.  So, when we get true religion it should realign us, not bend us out of shape. Maybe that's how we know the difference between true and false religion - does it realign me, free up the potential within, release compassion, empathy and the pursuit of the meaningful life?
-TW

The cafe ceiling at the V&A 


Saturday 9 September 2017

How do you find the right words....and who’s listening anyway?

Yes, this could be anywhere! It's actually the Delhi skyline to my right, as I write. India has the largest youth population in the world = approx 0.6 Billion 

I can still remember a memorable conversation with a close friend at my 50th birthday bash, about what it would look like to live in Community – a group of close friends doing life together; cooking together, owning only one lawn mower, chuntering over life events each evening and creating an entwined mesh of care and support for each other through the years, come what may. 

Now, ten years on, my friends & family still hear that same old dream, from time to time (usually after I’ve had a glass or two), a dream of belonging, a dream of individuals who ‘see’ and ‘hear’ one another.

I confess that what I witness of ‘normal life’ right now doesn’t do it for me. Technology rules and I too have succumbed, but I believe it’s threatening to drive us further away from each other, not bring us closer. Like an unspoken conspiracy, it actually distances us from each other; we keep text messages as short and as obscure as possible and waste obscene amounts of time scrolling through innocuous FB drivel. I do it, but it’s getting me down.

We seem to be making a migration away from face to face time - from giving each other unhurried time, thoughtful time and ‘I want to invest in you’ time.

So, what needs to be said?

Well, I’m using a Blog, because what I want to say doesn’t fit a Text, a Tweet or a FB sound bite, but to be honest I could probably share what I have to say that way and maybe it would have the same response as my Blog.

Text: We’re both quitting our jobs with EL

Tweet: Funding dried up. Training model not sustainable. Taking a new focus.

FB: 2.2 Billion new people will arrive on planet earth in the next 30+ years (1.3bn in Africa and 0.7bn in Asia). They will all need to discover how to LEAD themselves and their relationships, if they are to survive. The world is changing fast. There is an acute need to equip the coming generations with the Motivation, Mind-sets and Skills to LEAD themselves.
Emerging Leaders has reached and trained 40,000 over the past 10 years, but this is only a drop in the ocean. We need to act fast, use the brilliance of technology, to spread our Leadership for Life training and get it onto a digital platform.
Trevor and Jane will start engaging with this enigma (challenge), and to do that they will be leaving the ‘in the field’, EL training team at the end of the year (Dave Pepper is taking over as CEO), to research how this can be done, so that millions can get trained, not just a few. Learning to LEAD YOURSELF is essential, because there is NO sustainable change anywhere in the world without good, strong effective Leaders. So, that’s where we’re headed…please wish us well….and do stay connected with us….be our community!



- JB


Celebrating at the end of our last India visit - 50 Trainers equipped for 10 M&S garment factories in Bangalore and Chennai to train 11, 228 workers. They have, to date, trained 4,127 in 7 months


Monday 24 July 2017

The Country of a Thousand Hills

Early morning on a Rwandan hillside - the view from my platform at the Sorwathe guest house

It’s not long after 6am and I’m sitting on an area of wooden decking outside our guesthouse, high on a Rwandan hillside 

The air is trying to be fresh, but as I inhale I sense a denseness that hints to a scorching day waiting in the wings.

Down in the bowl of the valley I can hear goats crying, cockerels calling, the occasional insistent bellowing of cows and some hearty wood-chopping. But above, around and encompassing all these sounds there is birdsong, filling in all the gaps; like the backdrop of a thousand choir voices, they create a rich cacophony of an impromptu symphony.

As I focus my gaze, pathway-tracks can easily be picked out, some running like contours on a map, others traversing hairily up the steep sides of hills, through rough scrub or tea bushes, to reach tin shacks or tiny hamlets. 

Around each dwelling can be seen stumpy banana trees and a few scratty crops, often on terraced plots.

This is the country of a thousand lush hills and any Rwandan living in rural parts (that’s 95% of the population), needs to be built of sturdy stuff and have the aptitude of a mountain goat. But more than that....they must have an iron will and deep resilience to survive here.

None of the homes below me have running water, toilets or electricity. The focus for these families centres around one thing....keeping body and soul together and making it through another day.


‘Wealthy' homes in the valley with coffee beans drying

I’ve tried to imaging what it’s like to wake at first light, cold and hungry to face another day of hardship and struggle. 

As I write I watch a man carrying a 20 litre jerry can on his head, ascending a steep escarpment through a wood of eucalyptus trees. I don’t know where he has come from or where he is going, but I know instinctively that he does this every single day. 

Near-by a gaggle of cheery construction workers have arrived to work on an extension to the Tea Factory to my right, where we’ve been training. 

Mr Peiris the Sorwathe manager, a pack of prize tea and us
 Sorwathe Tea has an impressive reputation world wide for producing a pukka-cuppa. Last week we trained an eager group of 75 managers, supervisors and cooperative leaders (even the 3 Bosses attended).

I wondered before the training started if we would really be able to connect with this group in a way that would change their lives and make a tangible difference or was I in LaLa land? We were in a country that had suffered such mind-boggling trauma and atrocities during the genocide of ‘94, what did we have to offer? 

At the end of the 3 day training they gave us their verdict...
Yes”, they said, “This is the most useful training we have ever had
Why?”, we asked. “Because you have shown us that it is our THINKING that is keeping us small and keeping our potential from growing...It is the poverty of our mindsets that keeps us in actual poverty and we can see that if we can Change our thinking we will Change our lives for the better” 

Trevor is full swing with our translator Freddy

I heard their words and reflected on the massive mental challenges that threaten to swamp and overwhelm them every day - and this group were ‘wealthy’ compared to the thousands who live in aching poverty, picking tea leaves every day for £10 per month.

I wondered what was needed most to bring about Mindset Change in us all. 

My observations of the group prompted me to think that they didn’t so much need to be taught ‘WHAT’ to think (the collection and digestion of knowledge), over the 3 days, but rather to learn ‘HOW’ to think.

It was very noticeable that they didn’t find it easy to....
- think creatively
- problem solve
- activate their curiosity
- stick with a problem
- use Focus and be Proactive around addressing difficulties
- awaken their imagination
- or have an, “Ok, well what else can I try?” attitude

All these attributes will be needed if they’re going to LEAD themselves out of poverty and onto a road that will change their world and the world around them for the better.

Leadership requires CREATIVITY, CURIOSITY and a never ending commitment to living in a mental ‘stretch zone’; the place where COURAGE is forged.

And this is what I hope for them all....to become courageous leaders....because there is no sustainable change anywhere in the world without good, strong and effective LEADERSHIP. 





- JB



Friday 5 May 2017

The Normal Life




‘A normal Life'


Just before leaving on our latest trip Jane did this drawing.  Looking at the choppy discomfort of the waters led us into a discussions about, "what is the normal life?".

Much of the time I think I view the normal life as the calm sea and the sun shining and the picnic basket overflowing.

If that is the case, then the storm wind, the hail, the raging sea, or the doldrum sea, the grey skies and the empty picnic basket, become the "abnormal life", which means I conclude that something is wrong.  If that's the case then all of my energy goes into getting my life "back to normal".  And given that the majority of life is the rough sea and the sparse picnic basket, then most of life is wasted chasing the "normal life".

What we call "normal" is often where our life-muscles get flabby and soft and we become less equipped to deal with the "abnormal life".

Being here in Cape Town amidst such beauty and challenge I realised once again that I need to develop a clear view of the "normal life".

The normal life is not solely a calm sea and bright sunshine and a full picnic basket, it is all of the richness of every experience that comes my way, without making a judgment on it.

So I wrote my own mantra on the normal life

- Life just is.....Life is what it is
- Embrace life in its totality - love and pain and the whole damn thing!
- Do not give way to fear
- Do not give up when the short sprint turns into a marathon
- Do not let go of the daily disciplines of life
- When the sun is shining, or when the sea is raging, live each day built around the daily disciplines of the anti-fragile life.

Every day:-

  • Exercise
  • Meditate
  • Write and process
  • Read and expand
  • Let go of my small ego-self to be embraced by a larger story
  • Practice kindness, forgiveness and generosity
  • Practice smiling
  • Walk slowly with my head held up
  • Weep with those who are weeping and laugh with those who are rejoicing


(....and taste every sip of South African wine when you are here)

TW